It has been just over two years since I was privileged to donate a kidney for Papa Phil (back row, on the left), and he is doing great! I say “for” because the kidney that I donated actually went to somebody else since Phil and I were not a “match.” We were part of a three-way swap involving three donors and three recipients and we have become a kidney family.

It was great to catch up with everyone–and especially to see that one of the donors and her recipient husband are now the parents of a beautiful and sweet 3-month-old baby; we are all hoping to join together for the baptism celebration in a few weeks. It was also wonderful to have Dr. Wee (front row, center) of the Cleveland Clinic join us for dessert; he was responsible for the removal of the three kidneys from the donors while other doctors did the insertions in the recipients. It is incredible to hear about the advances that are being made in kidney transplantation–even in the two years since our operations.

Our gathering was not complete as the recipient of the kidney that I donated passed away back in September. It was a shock and I was filled with a bunch of emotions upon hearing the news. I was able to meet with the family a few days after his passing, and then to attend a memorial service in Kansas City about a month later. It provided closure for me and reconfirmed for me the importance of the decision that I made–even if the recipient lived for less than we would have hoped or expected. No matter what, he will always be my kidney brother and I am grateful for the special connection with his family.

I recently gave a talk about Jewish views on organ donation. A woman in the audience shared with me a letter from a woman who had received an organ from her grandson who had passed away tragically but was able to save and enhance many lives through his generosity. It was heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time to read the letter. The gift of life is invaluable.

As always, I encourage folks to look into becoming a living donor. It is a difficult experience but well worth it. I also urge everyone to donate blood and platelets. This are less invasive (and less celebrated) but also save lives on a regular basis.

Two years on, I am grateful for the experience. I also feel blessed to have my kidney family. Here’s hoping we are able to share many happy occasions in good health!