I always read Parashat Toldot with extra interest since I am a twin. The story of the rocky relationship between Isaac and Rebecca’s sons, Jacob and Esau, begins in our Torah portion. From the very beginning, we are told that Isaac favored Esau and Rebecca favored Jacob. We are told that this is because of the different lives they led. As we know from the rest of the story, “playing favorites” did not really work out for the family.
As a child, my parents always made sure that they supported whatever my sister and I did. They never dressed us alike; they wanted us to have our own identities. They also made sure that we understood that we could follow whatever path we wanted in life and we would be loved and encouraged. To this day, my sister and I (and our older brother) have a close and loving relationship.
Just yesterday, many of sat down to a festive Thanksgiving Dinner with our families; it may have been wonderful or perhaps less than wonderful. Often, the discomfort comes from events that happened years ago. Sometimes we can repair, but other times–as was the case with Esau and Jacob–we understand that it may not be possible.
All the more reason for us to think carefully about how our actions today can affect the connections we hope to build and maintain in the future.Shabbat Shalom!