One of the greatest challenges facing older adults is loneliness. When we are younger, we are often surrounded by partners, children, and friends. As we age, though, spouses and friends may no longer be with us, and in our highly mobile society, children often move away from where they grew up. Being surrounded by loving and supporting people might be something we unfortunately take for granted in our younger years, but it becomes more and more precious as time passes.

Loneliness can also have an adverse effect on physical health. A recent article from AARP, highlights the way that friendships can influence our physical well-being. The article notes that a “new study of older adults finds that even momentary social interactions with friends reduce fatigue and stress. It follows a wealth of earlier research showing that friendships later in life forestall dementia, Alzheimer’s and physical decline.” Social interactions are thought to stimulate the brain much in the same way that some puzzles do: activating thinking, remembering information, and being mentally nimble. Lack of social interaction can be worse than the effects of obesity, smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and physical inactivity.

How can loneliness be counteracted? The answer is particular to each individual. Introverts may actually fare much better than extroverts in this regard; there are those who simply get more stimulation and fulfillment from reading a book, watching a movie, or going for a walk alone. For older extroverts, however, the need to be with others can be complicated. We make most of our friends at work, at school, through our children, and by being out and about; these opportunities are often limited as we age. The COVID-19 pandemic showed us, though, that even folks who have a hard time getting out of their homes can still find ways to meet new people. Those who do not have mobility issues or have better access to transportation can get involved in senior groups at houses of worship, community centers, or libraries. Many find new friends at the local gym, in adult education classes, and in group travel. It requires some effort, but ultimately there is a positive payoff.

Nobody wants to be lonely. Humans are social beings. Not only can strengthening and creating friendships be good for our emotions and spirits, but we should not forget that it can also impact the way we feel and how we age in a healthier way.